My glasses came off this year – you know - the rose colored ones? The ones that, even though the whole world is going to hell in a hand basket, the closest you’ve ever come to it is showing concentric concern while watching the news at night. You think to yourself, thank GOD nothing like that has ever happened, or could ever happen, to me. Well, it happened, I got divorced, laid off from work, evicted from my home, and moved back to my hometown to squat at a relative’s house, just to give you a sense of what I’ve gone through this year. This type of worldly disillusionment shouldn’t come to a person in a single dose, but rather, in short manageable bursts. For instance, lose your job – allow me to find another one before finding out that the person you married, the one brimming with integrity, was actually a lying adulterer who never loved you.
Having shared that with you, let me say this – this is NOT a woe is me blog. I’ve learned three VERY important things this year:
1. Life isn’t fair! That’s as simple as I can put it. It rains on the just and the unjust alike. Nobody knows why the wicked get blessings and the good get trampled – there is no sinister plot at play – life just isn’t fair.
2. The most important thing in any relationship, and listen up folks because this is a good one, is RECROCITY!!! If you are not getting what you are giving and vice versa – this is NOT a good relationship!!
3. Therapy, in the conventional sense, doesn’t work for everyone!
We all handle tangled Christmas Tree Lights and lost luggage at the airport differently - but, we can still learn from each others’ methods and maybe even find some humor in our situations – this is the reason for me starting this blog. There are a lot of people out there who just want to talk about their day and to hear how others are coping with theirs too. We can have a dialog about whatever we want. This invitation to talk with me comes with the following disclaimer: I am not a therapist!!! I am just a REAL person getting through one day at a time – just like you. I am still rebuilding a life, starting over as a single parent, starting a new job, rebuilding my finances, making new friends, and learning how not to hate myself for past decisions and learning how to look to the future – however grim or gray or happy or uncertain that future may be.
I look forward to hearing from you and learning about you.
-I’m just sayin’ …
